Three weekends ago i attended my first ever fashion show. I was quite anxious to say the very least. I had no idea what to wear or what to expect. For a week or so leading up to the night, i was so anxious about what to wear, nothing in my closest i thought was good enough. I went through several outfits none of them seemed “good enough” after all it was a dress to kill event with a “best dressed prize.” I of course had to step up my game on a major. My usual jeans, t-shirt and high tops was certainly not going to cut it. I actually had to make an effort.
I went dress shopping three days before the fashion show and i couldn’t find anything i liked. I went back home disappointed that it was an afternoon wasted but good thing is that i actually saved money and did not end up buying something i did not need nor had budgeted for. I went to my closest, took out a dress tried it on and decided that was the dress i would wear.
Ok outfit was done and dusted now i was stressing about my hair. What was i going to do to my hair? I thought if i wake up early on saturday morning and go to the hairdressers to get my hair done then i would look on point. Thankfully i woke up so exhausted that morning, i ended up not going. At this point i learnt a major life lesson. Don’t spend too much time stressing about your appearance to impress people who won’t even notice you. It is true though, i was going to spend all this money on an outfit to try and “fit” with the ladies in their 6 inch heels and red carpet outfits and probably none of them would have noticed. Thank God i came to my senses before i made a fool of myself.
Now that the outfit was out of the way, i began to stress about the venue. I kept wondering what kind of a venue it was. Would i get a good seat, would i even get a seat to begin with? On the night my friend and i arrived half an hour early and managed to score good seats. In fact we were the first seated, she sat in the front as she had front row seats whilst i sat behind her in the second row. I must say i had a good view and the chairs were very comfortable. The toilet wasn’t difficult to get to either and it was so clean!!!! Aah could the night get any better.
The fashion show was very well put together. I enjoyed seeing all the designers showcasing. One question i had halfway through the show was “i wonder what people would think if a person like me walked down the runway?”
Off late i have been interested in how the fashion world views people with disabilities in relation to them showcasing or wearing their garments. What would the world say if a visually impaired woman walked down the runway with her cane in a couture outfit? Would the focus be on her impairment or the designer outfit? I do know earlier in the year some models with disabilities graced the runway at New York Fashion Show. I particularly loved one image of two women wearing the same outfit walking the runway one on a wheelchair and the other not. What a powerful message that image sends to the world that people with disabilities do buy clothes too and we often struggle to find clothes that fit because they are not designed for us at all. I once wrote about the frustrations of this here.
Writing about this just reminded me of an incident that happened 4 years ago. I walked into a boutique with my Mum and sister. I am not into the whole shopping thing like most women, i was simply accompanying my mum and sister. Whenever i walk into a boutique it takes me just one scan of the store to determine whether they would be anything i like or not and in this case there wasn’t much that caught my attention so i went and sat down whilst i watched my mum and sister shop. At some point the store owner says to my mother “it’s so good to see your daughter dress so well considering her condition.” (Please note i wasn’t wearing anything fancy, just a simple maxi dress. I wasn’t ready for that comment. I was truly caught off guard and did not respond. She is lucky i was still naive at the time had it been 2015, i would have given her a piece of my mind. I did vent about it later that night on Facebook.
Anyway going back to my question“i wonder what people would think if a person like me walked down the runway?” I may never know the answer to this question but i sincerely hope in this lifetime that designers would also design and make clothes for people with disabilities. This would definitely make my shopping experience much easier.